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The Art of Loving

Posted on November 15, 2011 at 11:30 AM

Upon my mother's passing there were a handful of books she left behind; One of these was The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm. According to Fromm, "In erotic love, two people become one. In motherly love, two people who were one, become separate."  and "The mother must not only tolerate, but wish and support the child's separation." Because healthy motherly love must be unselfish and completely altruistic, it has been considered "the highest kind of love, and the most sacred of all emotional bonds."  

WOW! So that is why it is so difficult to bear when my babies essentially turn on me, and begin to assert their individual wills saying "Mommy, NO!" I think the separation is difficult for both mother and child, hence the eye rolls, attitudes and tantrums that come up from time to time for all of us, children and mothers.  Good luck today moms, may we all learn to bear the separation from our babies. 

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Reply Kelly Duffield
4:10 PM on November 21, 2011 
Erin, I decided to track down your website after I saw your motherhood sticker in Real Baby. I just read your blog to date and it is simply beautiful. I still have tears in my eyes as I write this. I hope you keep writing ... you have a gift. - Kelly (fellow mom from gymnastics)
Reply Erin Ross
8:29 AM on November 22, 2011 
Hi Kelly-Thank you so much for your encouragement. See you soon, Erin